Married and dating polyamory
One of the things I had a meltdown about when we were considering if we were going to get married was, will we be monogamous like people expect us to be?
" We don't have to "let" each other do things; it's not our job to parent our partners, or keep them in line, or punish or reward them.I have a long distance partner where I only see her a couple times a year but we're in communication every day via text or other social media.We rely on each other also for emotional support with things that are going in both of our lives.Currently she has four additional partners; two of those relationships are ones she shares with her husband. " Both of us picked "It's an unrealistic expectation." We didn't talk about it just then, but let it simmer for a year until we had an opportunity to have a threesome with a coworker of his, which she and I instigated.Before that threesome, I let him know I was okay with them having sexual contact, just not penetrative penis-in-vagina sex.